The Adults In The Room

Our children are listening, learning, and sometimes teaching: One of my client-couples brought these post-it notes to a recent session.  They were heartbroken.  While arguing, they thought out of earshot, their young daughter went onto the family computer and did a...

The 3-Marriage Cycle

Here at the Collaborative Center of Southern California (CCSC) our clinical work often begins with couples that have made the decision to move their relationships toward divorce. At this starting point our mental health professionals are interested to assess what...

Children Will Choose: 2 Ideas As To Why

Children will choose. Sometimes I sit with couples attempting to strengthen their marriages. Other times I sit with high conflict couples who are attempting to salvage them. And still other times I sit with couples who have decided to divorce and are seeking a path...

Co-Parenting? Maybe

High conflict couples. Some seek my services attempting to salvage their marriage. Others have decided to divorce and request my services as a “co-parenting communication expert.” In this latter scenario, I am called upon to help high conflict couples co-parent their...

4 Important Aspects Of A Divorce Coach’s 1st Session

Sometimes couples come to see me to save their marriage. Other times they come seeking assistance in navigating the complicated process of divorce. They have come to this difficult decision, sometimes mutually, sometimes initiated by one or the other. At this...

4 Important Aspects of A Couples Therapist’s 1st Session

I am often asked what to expect by couples coming to see me for their 1st couples therapy session. There are several areas I set out to cover during this meeting also referred to as an “intake session.” A productive intake balances a couple’s need to speak about what...